Bereavement counseling
The loss of a loved one (human and animal) is always very difficult. For some, the loss of a beloved animal is even more difficult than the loss of a human being. This is often not understood by everyone which can make one feel even lonelier. Our pets are ALWAYS around and therefore so integrated into our daily and emotional lives that losing them can be very hard.
Loving with heart and soul
Our animals love us unconditionally, with complete conviction, and when that falls away it touches the heart and soul deeply. Because of this unconditional love, we also drop our masks and love animals in a different way from humans: much more uncomplicated, honest and deeper because we don’t feel the inhibition that we sometimes do with humans. Not everyone understands this kind of bond and it is heartwarming to have support.
If you have a good and deep bond with your animal, you also want to guide it as best you can to leave this earthly life behind.
What can I do for you and your animal?
Through intuitive communication and connection, an animal can indicate the extent to which it is in transition and its wishes around death and thereafter. I often receive messages for the humans involved that are a great support in the whole process of saying goodbye.
Furthermore, with Anaflora remedies and various therapies, I can often soften the moment of transition and death and bring resignation to animals and humans. As soon as you know that an animal is deathly ill, you can begin to assist in this phase which is very profound for both humans and animals.
The bereavement process
After death, the grieving process begins and again Anaflora Remedies and energetic treatments are a very effective therapy. Anaflora Remedies can be a great support for the animals and the people left behind and make the grieving process softer. It brings acceptance and one can approach the deceased in a positive light again.
The overwhelming grief and loss is often immensely softened.
“Animals are masters in showing unconditional love, wisdom and compassion.”
Marjolein
Guilt and processing
Guilt is often a major obstacle that Anaflora remedies are excellent at releasing. We often think we have done something wrong, done too little, intervened too late, given too little attention during life or the last phase and so on. By taking certain Anaflora Remedies before, during and after death, this pain is immensely alleviated and the guilt disappears.
Read more about the death and dying process
As much as possible, allow the animal to determine the place of death for itself and make it a sacred place by placing candles, favorite items, pictures, drawings, etc next to it. Have the animal lie on a favorite blanket or other beautiful blanket or pillow. Put plants or flowers around it that can be buried or cremated with it if necessary. Speak to the animal about all the beloved animals and people who have already died and who are waiting for him and assisting him in the process. Be with the animal as much as possible and let it feel and hear your love and enjoy every second spent together in this way.
Out of respect and gratitude, it is best for the animal and yourself if you replace your sadness as much as possible with gratitude, respect and love. Tell the animal that it has permission from you to die and that it does not have to stay with you at any cost. Everyone has their own journey to make and that includes this process. Tell it that you will certainly miss it but that it does not have to worry about you. If you convey these words with accompanying feelings intensely heartfelt, then it will make the dying process much easier and that is, after all, what is ultimately wanted for everyone.
Let everyone who wants to say goodbye (human and animal) and who you yourself want to be there visit you to say goodbye in peace and love. An animal often does not want to be touched physically when it is in the process of passing so please have the greatest respect for this and that goes for everyone who comes to visit.
Show the body of the deceased the greatest respect and treat it that way. From the moment of death until as many as three days after, the soul and body is in the process of letting go. Keep this in mind and create a quiet, respectful space around the body. Sometimes it happens so quickly that you have not been given time for ceremony around the death. Create a loving ceremony with candles, self-written bills or poems, anecdotes, drawings and photos, and let everyone say goodbye who wants to. In peace, you can sit around it and tell beautiful stories about all the wonderfully special moments you had with the deceased. The deceased will love it and it will make his journey much easier by letting go of the earthly life knowing that it was loved and that everyone thinks of him in love and gratitude and now grants him all the peace to recover from the illness and death. You can have this loving ceremony around the death or during the funeral or cremation or both of course.
Everyone should do what they feel comfortable with. These are just suggestions that will hopefully make a positive contribution to the death process and grieving. If your animal is cremated take the ashes back immediately and place them in the room where the death occurred. Make a nice little altar with pictures and candles and drawings etc. At the burial site you can place a nice memorial, a beautiful tree, shrub or flowers. The deceased himself can indicate through a communication what his preference is in all this.
You can bury your pet (at home or in a cemetery) or have it cremated (individually or in a group). You can choose to keep the body at your home for as long as possible (1 to 3 days) so that everyone (deceased, human and other animals) has time to say goodbye at their own pace. Afterwards, you can have the body picked up or transport it yourself to the cemetery or crematorium. Here you will still have the opportunity to say goodbye with a small ceremony. If your animal dies at the vet’s, you can still choose to take the animal home to say goodbye in peace. You can also always ask your veterinarian to come and put your animal to sleep at home. Ask at the cemetery or crematorium what is possible in terms of any wishes you may have and do not hesitate to ask for everything. For example, at the crematorium you may even join them to take the body to the incinerator. All the treasured items you have collected around the death of the animal can be placed in the grave.
Parting is part of life, no matter how painful it is. However, do not forget the previous life this person or animal has led and how much love and joy this has given you. That is why a good farewell is so important, a period of intense friendship and caring in which you can express your love and gratitude and in which you can ensure that the transition, the letting go, can take place as easily as possible. If you find it difficult to cope with this please contact me.
“Thank you so much for the bereavement counseling for both our cat and myself. Cleo was deteriorating but even then it is and remains difficult to face it and then actually tie the knot. Especially considering the fact that I just had a loss to deal with, it was hard to think about the next loss. Partly because of your Anaflora, both Cleo and I became calmer and more aware. We were able to say goodbye to each other in a beautiful peaceful way and she was able to make her own resting place. Thank you for all your sweet help.“
B. te N.
“Thank you for talking to our dog and being able to articulate what is going on in him and what he wants. The Anaflora remedy you created for his grieving worked within 2 days! He is happy again, energetic and more open to us and other dogs. Super thanks! “
N. te G.
Do you need support in the bereavement process?
Parting is part of life, no matter how painful it is. However, do not forget the previous life this person or animal has led and how much love and joy this has given you. That is why a good farewell is so important, a period of intense friendship and caring in which you can express your love and gratitude and in which you can ensure that the transition, the letting go, can take place as easily as possible.
If you find want to receive guidance in the bereavement process please contact me.